Becoming a Good Finder is a great habit that will lead to developing better relationships in every area of your life.
Black Belts should strive to master their people skills right along with their martial arts expertise. They should also work to become great team players, in the dojo, at home and at school or in their workplace. To become a Good Finder, you must always try to search for all the good qualities in your teammates, co-workers, school buddies, your family and your friends.
Your main objective should be to seek, find and acknowledge each person’s positive qualities and improvements on a regular basis. You might notice that someone has improved their flexibility, a particular skill, or maybe you’ve noticed that they’re becoming more toned and fit. Praise them and tell them what you see. Everyone likes receiving a sincere compliment. Plus, it always feels good to share positives and to recognize the success of others.
By offering sincere praise toward others, you’ll quickly see how it builds a better level of rapport and strengthens your relationship with that person. Soon you’ll see how the people around you, begin to spot your good qualities and compliment you on your achievements also.
“Any fool can criticize, condemn or complain and most fools do!”- Benjamin Franklin
Don’t be a fool – Be a Good Finder! Be a force for good; ignite people’s positive energy and emotions. Search for the good and you will quickly find it… search for the garbage and negatives, and you’ll soon find that too.
You may need to dig through a ton of dirt, just to find an ounce of gold. However, you’re not looking for dirt, you are searching for gold. There’s a lot of GOLD in the people that train at our dojo… let’s bring it to surface every day!